June 15th, 2017
Somewhere between moving into a new apartment and moving out, getting to know your neighbors gets lost in the shuffle. Usually intentions start well, then dwindle, as life grows busier and awkwardness settles in.
However, it doesn’t have to be this way. Good intentions and better actions can lead to real friendships with the people next door. Here are six great ways to break the ice with between you and your apartment neighbor:
So, you’ve been watching your new neighbor move heavy boxes and furniture for the past 10 minutes. Perhaps it’s time to lend a hand! Many hands make light work, and shared labor leads to natural conversations.
Noticing details about your neighbor is the best way to determine a good opening line. Little things like his or her articles of clothing, shoes, vehicle and daily routine reveal a lot of usable information. For instance, perhaps you observe that he or she often wears hiking boots. Your first conversation might end up being about local trails.
The moral of the story: Care about other people’s lives, then respond accordingly.
Signals play a sizable role in any relationship. One of the most potent signs that you are willing to meet and talk with a stranger is the way you listen. If you are constantly shifting the subject back to something the other person experienced instead of about you, friendships will follow.
Inviting one person, couple or family over for dinner can be a bit intimidating — especially if you all have never hung out with each other before. One way to alleviate the pressure is to make it a group event, with several households invited and fun, engaging games planned. It’s a nonthreatening way to be neighborly, break bread together and learn more.
Breaking the ice with neighbors takes a lot of effort, but most importantly, it takes authentic interest in others. If you don’t truly care about your neighbors’ well-being, you won’t truly reach out to know them better.
Changing one’s attitude is a tough task, but it’s worth doing. Take 15 minutes each day to think about the needs and wants of the people who live near you, then determine whether those needs intersect with anything that you might be able to provide.
Yes, it sounds a bit like a cliché from the 1950s, but a plate of homemade cookies remains a successful tool for meeting neighbors. The very nature of such a gesture suggests thoughtfulness, friendliness and genuine interest.
Once that “apartment for rent” sign comes down, start thinking about what you can do to make a good first impression — whether it be delivering baked goods or leaving a coffee gift card. The quality of your cookies means much less than the action itself. In other words, sometimes it really is the thought that counts.
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